Tuesday, October 21, 2014

Cutting The Cord

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As a millennial, I still have a hard time understanding why some in my generation want to live at home and rather than living on their own. To me, that exemplified success and that you could support yourself while figuring out your financial life along the way. Of course, some days were better than others were but I would not trade those "hard days" for the world. They made me into the financially aware person that I am today. 

This recent NPR article suggests that parents should not panic if their 25 year old is still living at home, but I do have to question the long-term effects on them. How are they learning to prioritize? How are they learning to budget if they do not have to worry about the roof above their head or groceries in the refrigerators? I know of parents who are charging their kids rent and kudos to them. The argument of talking to your children more when they live at home is a valid one, as you do tend to talk to people that you see on a daily basis. Nevertheless, that should not be the reason why parents have not "cut the cord" as the article suggests.

Friday, October 10, 2014

How is it October already?

I just saw on Facebook today that there are only 75 days until Christmas y'all. Where has 2014 gone?

We are happy to report that we had a little boy (T for this blog) back in March! God is so good and we are beyond thankful to this little blessing that we wake up to each morning. He is a fabulous baby and watching him grow and learn each day is amazing...just amazing.

Financially, we're getting back to our mission of being a debt free family. My work looms with conspiracy theories of Recession 2.0 in the next few months (which by the news out Europe is probably more true than fiction) so we are even more driven to get our financial house in order now. I will not go through what I did in 2008 and make the same mistakes again. I just can't.

Which made me think, if you could talk to your pre-2008 self, what would you say? This morning, Mr. M and I discussed our retirement steps. We still need to plan for retirement as much as we can even if we only have a little money to spare.

Thursday, January 16, 2014


This has nothing to do with money or debt but it does put a smile on my face.

Tuesday, December 31, 2013

So here we are…

The last few months have been a blur. Mr. M and I joked at the beginning of this year, that it would be the year of us. While it has in some retrospect, there were times that we were focused on us and others that we were simply trying to survive. Here’s the good, bad and things to work on in 2014…

The Good

1.      I did find another job. Ironically it is the same job with the firm that won the account. The blessing side of this job is that I can still work from home which I hope will help with daycare expenses. Also, I know what the job entails which should help with maternity leave. The only downside is the pay cut (around 7K) that I took to keep this job but compared to the other job offer I received, it was the best on the table.

2.      Baby is doing well! We’re about 7 ½ months along as I type this and so far so good. The IVF drugs that I worried about affecting our child hasn’t so far and my fingers are crossed that everything will be okay when we meet the little one in person. We’ve decided not find out the gender which ironically enough is harder on family and friends than us. Many people don’t understand that we’re just really happy that we’re pregnant and want a healthy baby.

3.      My family seems like it’s getting back to normal. Things are not perfect between my father and me but it is getting better. My sister had a baby this past summer and my niece has helped a great deal in bringing us together. Our relationship is a work in progress but it is moving in the right direction.

The Bad

1.      Mr. M’s job. We thought in December that he was going to be hired for a new job and would be moving to a new state this month. It didn’t work out and we’re back to square one which I can tell is emotionally draining on him. Even though I have hinted, begged and maybe even nagged for the last four years about looking for a new job, it wasn’t until he cleaned out some paperwork that he realized that he hasn’t received a raise of any kind since 2008. Now, we’re bringing a little one home and I can tell that he’s stressed over the fact that we’re financially stuck for the time being. It would be easy to tell him to get a second job but with his schedule…no week is the same as the next.

2.      My car. The yellow engine light of death began appearing this month and now won’t go away. So much of our savings went to IVF that we don’t have enough in our car fund to get a new one in cash. This is a stress point for us because I argue that we’re playing with fire by keeping this car and need to get a new one. To fix any more issues on this car would be throwing good money at a bad problem. Don’t get me wrong – I don’t want a brand new car but a used car that could keep us safe for the next year or so before we trade it in for a better car. This would mean that we would have a car payment (which I HATE) but we would be safe.

Looking forward in 2014

1.      Preparing for Baby M. Our lives are going to change for the better and I’m trying to knock out all that I can do in the next 10 weeks.

2.      Finding contentment. Since we’ve been on this debt free journey for four years and counting, it’s hard to maintain the energy to keep this lifestyle up. It isn’t for the weak and I know that we’re building a foundation for a stronger, wealthier future. These financial bumps in the road (car issues, loss of income) could make me bitter and I’m trying to find more peace when these issues arise rather than stress.

I hope that your 2013 ends on a great note. 2014 is open for possibilities!


Wednesday, August 14, 2013

So We Lost.

So it happened – we lost the pitch. I’ve have gone through the variety of emotions of stunned, anger, frustration and grief.  We were given the opportunity to relocate to Dallas, TX so I could work at the main office but decided to turn that down due to cost of living and lack of a good insurance plan. While I would keep my salary…it wouldn’t have the same impact as living here and would serve more as a Band-Aid rather than a long range plan.

This leaves me back at square one. I’ve updated my resume and started to network again. Many of the jobs here are never posted but instead are announced by word of mouth. I hope I can play this game right and have a job in time before I’m officially unemployed in October.

To leave this post on a positive note, Baby M is doing great! We were officially released from our IVF doctor last Friday and will now visit our regular doctor from this point forward. I do realize how lucky we are in all of this. I can replace a job but I cannot replace a child.

Friday, July 12, 2013

I might be losing my job...

I found out this morning that my agency is up for review with our client and there's a high possibility that I will be unemployed next month. This announcement has completely blindsided me as our review a month earlier was "positive". I've gone through the emotions today of panic, anger and now determined to fight for my job.

Our pitch is in a few weeks on why they should keep us. It bothers me that the client thinks its no big deal to not be honest and tell us what's wrong so we can fix it. I guess they can use that cliche line of "its not business, its personal" but in the end - it is personal.

It's personal because this morning Mr. M and I celebrated the fact that my next paycheck wasn't going to IVF but instead to helping us pay down the parent debt. It's personal because we had just started to looking at homes so when Baby Mathis does arrive, he/she has more room to play in than our 2 bedroom/1 bathroom house.

All of that is now on hold and just because a few arrogant people decided they wanted to make a change on a whim. I'm trying - for the baby's sake - not to stress but I'm not handling this news well at all. I still can't wrap my head around it.

Wednesday, July 10, 2013

Positive News!

We're having a baby! The test was positive and now we're in the waiting game of wanting our beta numbers to increase. Our next test is on Thursday and if that goes well, we'll have another one next week.

If you've followed this blog of a while, you know that when I was offered my current job (via the phone) while watching Monty Python's The Holy Grail. We were watching the same movie when we got the call.  It must be the good luck charm for our family.