Friday, February 8, 2013

Well, today we received a bomb.

The last few weeks, I’ve been quiet on this blog as I’m trying to focus on us starting a family and it is not going well…not well at all. After three failed IUIs, we decided to move forward with IVF.  The problem, I thought, would be the cost with is an estimated $8-$10K. We do have 20 percent of that expense saved in the baby bank account so initially we were faced with the problem of how to solve for the rest. Easy – right? We’ve saved for big purchase before but we were also battling the emotions of wanting to go to this next level sooner than waiting. If you’ve wanted something for so long, it’s easy to simply say let’s get a loan.

Our clinic offers a program for couples going through the IVF process that if you have three failed IVFs, they’ll refund a percentage of your money. I applied for that program and found out this morning that we were denied because of my AMH and FSH levels. My emotions are in overdrive right now because we want to be parents but now that we’ve been denied into this program, I’m worried that pursing an IVF would be a waste. I really don’t know what to do…


  1. I say give yourself a rest for a few months. Calm down (I know it is hard) and then go for it! Remember I had 9 pregnancies and only 3 living children, I felt the same way you do. My girls are 8 and 5 years apart. We have been paying college tuition for 17 years. But it is worth it. You will have a baby someday, somehow.

  2. I had many many MANY failed IUI cycles. Take a few months off and regroup. I know it is easier said than done. But I do know what it is like to pump yourself full of hormones, and the blood work, and the ultrasounds, and to be where you are.

    Not sure if you are doing single or double IUIs. But ask your RE (please tell me you are seeing an RE and not an OB that "specializes" in infertility), about other protocols.

    Feel free to e-mail me....mysti1031 AT yahoo DOT com.