Advice needed.

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One of my close friends and neighbors has been searching for a job for a while…as in three years.  She left her old position to move with her husband when he was stationed at Ft. Hood. When he was sent on a mission overseas, she moved back to the East Coast and I was excited to have her home. Since she spent a year not working, I thought it would be a little difficult for her to find a job.  Who was I kidding? It was during the Recession so it was unfortunately a lot harder than we both thought. So, trying to be good friends, Mr. M and I tried every connection we had to land her a job and it finally worked a year ago.  She lasted at the job 4 months and hated it the whole time…which she preceded to tell us over and over.

Eventually, she was fired from that job in April of this year and again back searching for a job.  Then in November, she took a part time job at a local wine shop that was offered to her from a mutual friend.  She also went to our favorite local gift store (you know the time...locally owned by a very cute lady with cute but slightly over priced items) and was also offered a job there. I was elated for her! Finally, she would have some income.

Well, she quit both of them in less than two weeks.

That’s when I lost my cool. Am I wrong to think that she can’t complain about not having a job, even a job with a “title” to me anymore since she refuses to work? I feel that you have to do all that you can do to keep the lights on and food on the table.

Am I wrong in this? Since her last job fiasco, I had some pretty strong words for her when she started to complain to me (again) about not being able to find a job “with a title” in the last year.  My thought is that if you stay at home, only turn in job applications and you make no effort to follow up or network with that company, then it is your own fault for not having a job that has a title.