Sunday, June 24, 2012

The Con-Artist Is Back

Dad of the Year
So India strikes again. This weekend my sisters and I discovered that my father truly did not stop his emotional relationship with a much younger co-worker. Instead, he lied to us and continued to text India throughout the year. How he got caught is that he is so behind on his bills that he has a zero bank account and because he has a joint account with my mother, drained my mother’s personal account in the process.

That is how we discovered that my father stopped paying the mortgage payment three months. On top of that, he’s not paid most of the bills in the last three months AND took out eight pay-day loans. Yep – you read that right – eight pay-day loans. Why? To make sure India (who currently lives at a hotel) has a place to sleep, clothes, etc. and serving as a sugar daddy to her. The only problem is he doesn’t have any money so he’s borrowing on top of debt to keep this other woman happy.

So basically, my dad is idiot.

On Saturday, my sisters and my mother came to my house to create a game plan for my mother. This time around, the situation is more business than it is emotional. Not only has my father taken out numerous loans, he took out two credit cards in the last year in my mother’s name.

Of course he would.

Luckily, I do have a divorce lawyer who is a dear friend and ironically, I took out to lunch twelve hours before I found out about the new situation with my dad. (How’s that for timing?) She was gracious enough to come to our house to talk to my mom face to face. It was nice to have an outside voice reiterate what her daughters had been telling her for the last few hours. My mother will face financial hardships if she stays married to my dad or if she separates but if she separates then my dad can stop taking advantage of her.


  1. This is so terrible. I feel so bad for all of you, especially your mother. It's a shame that your father can't see that he's being used. Please keep us posted on what happens!

  2. My word, I am so sorry. YOur poor mom. but also I know this is hard, your poor dad, is he in his right mind?

  3. @Thrifty Crafty Girl - Thank you. These last few days have been a whirlwind and thank goodness I have this blog to keep my thoughts in one place.

    @Out My Window - He acts like he's in his right mind. Why he decided not to stop is beyond me. Mr. M keeps telling me to stop trying to make a rational explanation out of an irrational situation.