Divorce.

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If you had to ask me who out of our friends was the most secure in their relationship, I would have to say it was our friends Frank and Sue.  Together for over 11 years, they are both successful in their jobs, they lived in a half a million dollar house in the top neighborhoods, dressed in the very best fashions and couldn't understand last year when Mr. M and I would have to decline eating out with them due to the fact that they always ate at the most expensive restaurants. 

Then the unthinkable happened.  Two months ago Frank found out that his wife was having an affair. Not once...not twice but four times between September and November of last year.  Then last week, Sue decided that she needed to move out to think things over and we decided to invite Frank over for an early birthday dinner so he won't be alone.  After a long night of conversation of why she decided to cheat, what his next steps would be, etc. he received a text from Sue asking him to dinner for his birthday and he left our ecstatic that he was going to see her.

They did meet up for his birthday dinner in which she told him that she wanted a divorce.  A divorce.  Needless to say, Mr. M and I have had several financial and relationship conversations this weekend.One of the questions that I asked Frank was if they ever sat down as a couple and did a budget.  He just laughed.  We may never know why Sue felt that she needed to cheat on Frank.  I'm not sure if this couple is a victim of the economy or if they just became complacent.

It shows me that Mr. M and I have to keep our relationship a top priority during this debt free journey. It's easy for us to forget about going on dates since we're trying to save money. Our goal is to make an assertive effort to have date night.  I don't want us to fall into the same trap.